Life isn’t perfect.
Today the alarm didn’t go off, my usually on task four year old couldn’t seem to follow her routine this am without several reminders, my middle daughter found it funny to snot rocket her milk all over and my youngest kept laying her head down on her high chair tray and falling back asleep, I had forgotten to put clothes in the dryer the night before. This resulting in not having any dry clean pants to wear since I have about three pairs of pants that actually fit and are decent enough to wear in public. These are just a few of the hang ups that made my morning difficult and not so picture perfect.
All too often people see social media or part of the picture and think someone else’s life is so “perfect”. Let’s get real people no one’s life is picture perfect for some reason or another. I hear often “your life must be so easy”, “you get to stay home and be with your family you must have so much time to yourself” “you do so many fun things”. These are just a few of my favorites that I hear routinely. Really people?! Yes, I am extremely blessed to be able to stay home with my children and yes, we are able to do many fun activities. But there is always a tradeoff!!
We don’t live in a brand new house, we slowly fix it up as we can and often at very low budget and do it yourself type projects. My kids dont wear brand new clothes, the majority are hand me downs or goodwill. We don’t go on extravagant vacations, a trip to the lake with a cooler we packed is sufficient. We don’t have many expensive hobbies, we have a few like horses. But I teach lessons to pay for shoeing and feed and vet costs. We don’t go out to eat often, we cook our meals. The list could go on and on. It is all a tradeoff. We have the things we have only because we have worked our tails off and been creative of how to get it done.
My husband and I sometimes fight, we struggle to pay bills at times, and we throw our hands up in frustration when we don’t know how to raise our children. But I know at the end of the day we are real and I wouldn’t wish for my life to be any different. My children are learning that life is not always easy, or picture perfect. They are learning to play in the rain, use their creative minds, feel touched and loved by an animal, and so many more things that aren’t glamorous or picture perfect. The chaos and challenges of my life are what make it beautiful.
So for anyone feeling like someone else’s life is so much better than their own, take a deep breath and know that that picture perfect someone is silently struggling or dealing with something too.
Here at the HK Bar we don’t do fancy….we do real….