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Got Anger? Give Forgiveness…….

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Wow, I needed to read this today. Sometimes people just suck, and I have been carrying a lot of anger and spite the past few days. I feel like I live my life as an open book. The drawbacks about this way of living is other people feel free to scribble, tear, and rip out the pages of my open book without even considering the damage they are causing.

I struggle with letting go of anger. My mom always told me,

“No matter what decision you continue to make its because you are getting a payoff.”

Hmmmm….what’s my payoff? I think my payoff has been by staying angry with someone I can justify keeping them at arms length so that they can’t continue to hurt me. I want a different payoff, so I have to make a different decision.

Despite what someone has done or said to me I need to remember its not my job to carry the anger and hurt they have caused. Its my job to forgive and move onward, so that I too can be forgiven.

So I’m dumping the anger, I choose forgiveness and happiness instead.

Choices and payoffs. We all have them. What’s yours?

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Doing Something Right

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Daddy and Owl riding Twilight, Santa Clause and Boo leading Rose

We had our Christmas parade today in our small town. We love sharing our passion for miniature horses with everyone. I was so proud watching my girls ride and walk proudly with their buddies Twilight and Rose. I saw so much hard work and commitment pay off today.

All the hours of grooming, leading, riding and practicing are paying off. Owl rides like a big girl at only 22 months of age. And Capn Boo led our very inexperienced three year old Rose. Rose outweighs Morgan by about 200 pounds and she acted like an overgrown puppy dog under Boos direction. These are the moments I realize why my husband works two and sometimes three jobs….why I work part time and raise our girls….why we clip coupons….why we sometimes go without all the latest gadgets……why we watch every dollar…… Because raising our girls on the HK Bar with horses and animals is the best thing we can ever do for them.

From the HK Bar to the world, may you be filled with joy and wonder this holiday season!!!!

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Me and Owl riding Twilight

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Happily Married with a Plan for Divorce

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My husband and I have been together for ten years, and married for six. From the time we got together I have been preparing for our divorce. Sound strange? I’m sure it does.

I was raised by a single mother and an almost always absent father. I watched my mom struggle to pay bills, be everywhere she needed to be for my brother and I, as well as secure a future for herself. I learned a lot from my parents. I learned I never wanted to put myself in a situation I was not at least partially prepared for. This meant

1) I got my education. I am a sahm, but I have my nursing license that I keep current and also work prn. I know if I had to return to the workforce I would be able to provide for my children and I. I encourage everyone to take advantage of any opportunity for education tech school, seminars, certificate programs, any bit of education makes a person more job ready and marketable.
2.) I have always kept a separate bank account with enough money to survive  for three months. My husbands name is not on this account, but my mothers is. In the event of my death, she could still access the money.
3.) I have surrounded myself with friends and family that would support me in any decision I made for my children and I. It is very important to have a strong support system in the event of tradgedy….or divorce..

Do I want to divorce my husband? Absolutely NOT , but I have always been honest and up front with my husband that I would never put myself in a situation to be unprepared and helpless if I didn’t have to.

I also believe this preparedness doesn’t only apply to divorce but the event of job loss, illness of a spouse\child, or death if a spouse \child. Of course this isn’t a fix all, bit it would sure be a breath of air if you suddenly got the wind knocked out of you. You never know what’s around the corner.
Are you prepared?

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When Dermatitis Strikes UPDATE

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Today I discovered flaky skin and missing patches of hair in the mane of my daughters gelding, Romeo. He has beautiful hair as you can see from his tail. Thankfully his tail remains unaffected.

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The above picture is of Romeos mane. As you can see he has lost a considerable amount of hair and has scaly skin. This picture was taken before I roached his mane.

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This was after I roached his mane. He looks annoyed huh? Its true I’m notorious for giving bad haircuts, but this was for a purpose. I wanted to be able to visualize what was happening under that mass of hair. Of course I knew it was dermatitis, but hat the cause is I’m still not sure.

I roached the mane not only to be able to see what was underneath that mass of hair, but also so that the air could get to it. I know if it is a yeast or fungus causing the dermatitis then treatment will probably require a spray or topical cream to the affected area. With a long mane I can only imagine the goopy mess that would have been. And did I mention its a cold Kansas winter right now on the HK Bar? Images of poor Romeo with gooped up Elvis Presley hair went through my mind…..gelled hair in winter time doesn’t sound like much fun. It sounds like beggi g for more illnesses!

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After the fabulously hideous haircut I gave him I gave him a good groom and rubdown. Also not knowing what is causing  the dermatitis, I have separated his brushes from all the other horses so as not to contaminate one of the others if he is contagious (fungus).

So doing all I could, I now have a call in to the veterinarian to see where we go from here. I’ll give you an update when we find out the case of the dermatitis.

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Update!

I was speaking with a good friend of mine about Romeos dermatitis and she said “use some extra virgin coconut oil!” So I started doing some research. What I found was amazing! Did you know extra virgin coconut oil is an antifungal, antiviral, and antibacterial? Well, you do now.

I tend to be a bit of a skeptic about natural medicine. Even as a licensed nurse, and someone who worked as a veterinary assistant for five years, I still question everything. I read further about extra virgin coconut oil on the Mayo clinic site, as well as web MD. This stuff literally has thousands of uses!

My use was going to be on Romeos dermatitis plaguing his mane. So is it caused by fungus? Bacteria? Yeast? The truth is I have no idea because extra virgin coconut oil acts against all three! Cool, huh?

I thought so too after only eight days of treatment. They say a picture is worth a thousand words so you be the judge!

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Romeo after eight days of treatment with extra virgin coconut oil. Amazing improvement!

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After eight days of treatment with extra virgin coconut oil you see no scales, no crusty areas, and much improved skin with no patches of hair missing!

I’m now a believer. I think I may just slather myself in this stuff! Pass it around horse people, because this was a cheap, easy, and safe fix for our boy Romeo’s dermatitis.

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Ponies and Pajamas

This morning the girls were bickering, I was trying to keep motivated to scrub three days worth of food off the floor, and we were all showing signs of cabin fever. Boo said,

“Mama, my sisters and I miss our ponies. We aren’t used to being away from them this much.”

Which is true, the cold weather has kept the girls and I from spending as much time with them. Today is an unusually warm 60°F. So I said get your boots on girls and let’s go!

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So we went

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Owl said hello to Jo

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Boo had a deep conversation with her number one love,Romeo

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Bunny supervised

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Boo

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Then we visited the minis.

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Boo and Rose

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Then it started to rain....

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So we made a break for it....

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Back to the house...

It was forty five minutes of pure joy. It is amazing what a little time with those majestic creatures will do for the soul. Now the kids are playing nicely and watching cartoons while I contentedly scrub floors.

From the HK Bar to the world please take the time to nurture your soul on this beautiful Sunday.

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Book Review; Wherever You Are my love will find you by Nancy Tillman

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This book is a staple of our bookshelf! Absolutely love all of Nancy Tillman’s work, but this book is my favorite by far. Don’t let the board book presentation fool you, this book is a joy for all ages, not just the littles.

A book about how endearing and strong love is. Its beautiful and one of a  kind illustrations will leave you breathless.

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Happy reading from the HK Bar to you!

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This much I know is True

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No matter what is happening in my life, I know every morning without fail, Twilight, our 20 year young gentleman of the farm, will always be in this exact spot. He waits for me every morning in the same place.

Even when my life is a mess, my kids are driving me crazy, I don’t feel good enough, I am unsure about life, I know Twilight is waiting for me, in the same spot. Rain…..shine..   Snow. .. Or freezing rain….he always waits.

I peek my head out our front door and holler, “Good morning Twilight!” He nickers happily and trots away. Back to his girls (our 5 mini mares).

This interaction with Twilight every morning reminds me that there are things to be counted on in a world that sometimes seems like its gone crazy. He reminds me to meet each new day with a happy nicker and a bounce in my step….no matter the rain . ..no matter the sun… No matter the snow….no matter the freezing rain.   …..