A Hard Goodbye


This past summer I said one of the most heart wrenching goodbyes of my lifetime. My friend of over 20 years left to go home to South Africa. We “met” as pen pals on the Internet when we were in grade school. We wrote diligently by snail mail for several years. We only lost touch once briefly during my first year of college, and then resumed writing and keeping up over facebook, mail, email, and skype.


She has made the trip to Kansas at least three times, and this summer I made a trip to London to where she was living at the time. We spent seven blissful days sight seeing at breakneck speeds. We saw so many wonderful things and made so many memories that bring me to tears even now. I think we could have set a record of the most selfies taken in seven days.


We saw castles and churches, I had my first serving of fish and chips, we rode the underground, we climbed (I swear) a million steps, and we even saw the queen.
After our london trip we flew back home to the HK Bar together. She stayed in Kansas for another ten days. We went to rodeos, horseshows, a demolition derby, and rode horses at sunset,  we had conversations until wee hours of the morning,  and we drank a thousand gallons of imaginary tea at tea parties with my three girls. We made some of the best memories of my life.


So when it came time to say goodbye I felt a piece of myself being ripped out and staying there with her on the departing flights section of KCI airport. It was hard saying goodbye and not knowing when we would see each other again. So when I am having a bad day, or I have a huge success, or I question everything in ljfe, I know she is always there.
So as Winnie the Pooh said,
“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”

I want to thank her for being the friend of a lifetime. I want to thank her for so many things; for being a constant I. A sea of confusion,  for interrupting my tears to make me laugh, for always being there even when she was thousands of miles away. Thank you for being my cheerleader,  my confidant,  and a very best friend. You truly are one in a million.


Until we are in the same global coordinates, I know she is never really very far. ♡

One thought on “A Hard Goodbye

  1. What a beautiful piece of writing my dear friend. It brought tears to my eyes and warmth to my heart. I remember every moment of our time together during every trip. Nothing has brought me as much joy as our time together as well as watching your family grow in numbers and in strength. You need never worry about our friendship because it is impenetrable. I love you and miss you every day. Until we meet again, because we will.


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