Recently I found myself making a comment I thought was helpful to a close family member whom was struggling with an issue.
Despite being able to communicate through writing easily, I often mis speak. I often jumble my words and end up being nonsensical and ineffective in the point I’m trying to make.
In this particular incident, my family member spilled his proverbial guts and I was taken aback at the seriousness of his confession. I replayed the words I had said just moments before and physically cringed.
They hadn’t been helpful.
They hadn’t been relevant.
Looking back now after the fact I wish I could change the moment. I wish I could keep my words to myself and just offer my presence. I wish I could offer a big hug and a pat on the back.
Because the truth is sometimes when we try to say something helpful, or uplifting, or whatever, we do more harm then good. When we don’t fully understand the situation, our words end up becoming an annoying fly that the person bats away and ends up becoming an annoyance.
Even though my words were not said in judgement or anger I wish I could take them all back.
Sometimes when you don’t know what to say, don t say anything.
Sometimes Silence is The Best Answer