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Five Life Habits to Steal From Your Horse

The ten horses of the HK Bar make me a better person. So many life lessons are taught by our equine friends, if only we are willing students. Here are Five Life Habits you should steal from your horse:

1. Learn to live in the moment. Us humans can get so lost in the everyday. We get so busy we forget to enjoy this thing called life. It takes a tragedy to make us slow down and appreciate things and remind us to tell those that we love “I love you”.  Horses are only focused on the moment they are in. They don’t waste energy worrying about the what ifs of tomorrow or the could of beens from yesterday. Have you ever met a horse so worried about retirement he has ulcers? No? Didn’t think so.

2. Be honest. Most humans are liars. That’s a bit of painful truth for you. Some humans tell huge hurtful lies, some people tell white lies to save a friends feelings. Bottom line is a lie is a lie. Horses don’t know how to lie. They tell the truth. Cold. Hard. Facts. You always know where you stand with a horse. Wouldn’t it be lovely if more people were like this?

3. Be authentic. Humans are notorious for following social norms and following what’s popular. We are worried about our clothing labels, how big our houses are, and if our cars are new enough. Horses are just themselves. They don’t have to keep up with the Joneses, they are too busy being themselves to care about being someone they aren’t.

4. Be Bold. All to often I find myself being scared of life. I spend my time telling myself I can’t, I’m not good enough. I self sabotage and quit before I even try. Horses are bold and brave. They are determined and try, try again.

5. Sleep when you’re tired. I don’t know how many people, myself included, always say how tired I am. We  yawn and drag ourselves around. We make ourselves work, work, work. Horses sleep when they’re tired. Anytime. Anywhere. If they feel the need for a snooze, they make it happen. Whether they are standing in the pasture under a blanket of stars, or waiting thier turn outside the show ring. If we slowed down enough and listened to our bodies telling us we need to rest, oh how good we would feel. We could avoid sickness and mood Interruptions.

From the HK Bar to the world I hope you take the time to steal some life Habits from your horse. It may just change your life. 🙂
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The Christmas Bob died for us (like Jesus)

When my oldest daughter Boo was three years old she cried after we took our Christmas tree down. She had named our tree Bob. We explained to her that Bob would be replanted by Daddy and we could use him again next year. So we fibbed to temporarily salvage her heart.

Last Christmas when Boo was four she excitedly welcomed Bob back into our home for the Christmas season. When Christmas was over, we took down the tree, and a cascade of tears followed with Bobs parting. But again we explained that Bob would be taken back out, replanted by daddy, and we could use him again next year.

This Christmas our Boo is five. Today we went out to cut our tree and Boo looked at me, laughed, and said

” Mom, I know this tree isn’t Bob. I know Bob died after Christmas last year, he died because we cut him down. He was a good tree for us, but he died so we could enjoy him for Gods birthday. Kind of like when Jesus died on that cross for us. They both gave us a gift, their lives.”

Wow! My little Boo has grown so wise. This is the year I will always remember Bob died for us, just like Jesus died for us on the cross.

From the HK Bar to the world, be merry, be blessed.

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Boo and Bob this year

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First Snow on the HK Bar

It took us forty minutes to get bundled up to go outside. Boo, Owl, and Bunny were all  excited clapping and smiling and shouting,

“Snow! Mama, the first snow!”

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Boo, Owl, and Bunnys first step into the snow.

It only took three bathroom trips, one diaper change, and a few hundred times of taking off gloves and hats and putting them back on to make it out the door in enough clothes to warm a small army in blizzard temperatures.

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Boo and her best guy, Romeo

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Snowangel

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Calling the minis for breakfast

I loved the girls enthusiasm about the first snow. We laughed, only one of us cried, im not naming any names Bunny, we played, we fed horses, but best of all we made memories.

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Me and Bunny

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Me and Owl

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Pull Boo Pull!

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Jo and Charger having words


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Bunny, Tucker, and Owl

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Three smiles and a sad face

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Bunny sports a smile

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The aftermath

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This much I know is True

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No matter what is happening in my life, I know every morning without fail, Twilight, our 20 year young gentleman of the farm, will always be in this exact spot. He waits for me every morning in the same place.

Even when my life is a mess, my kids are driving me crazy, I don’t feel good enough, I am unsure about life, I know Twilight is waiting for me, in the same spot. Rain…..shine..   Snow. .. Or freezing rain….he always waits.

I peek my head out our front door and holler, “Good morning Twilight!” He nickers happily and trots away. Back to his girls (our 5 mini mares).

This interaction with Twilight every morning reminds me that there are things to be counted on in a world that sometimes seems like its gone crazy. He reminds me to meet each new day with a happy nicker and a bounce in my step….no matter the rain . ..no matter the sun… No matter the snow….no matter the freezing rain.   …..

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Life after Kids; Then vs. Now

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Me and Bunny

Life definitely changes after children. I had to laugh yesterday to myself as I sat down to write. Writing this list made me smile, I hope it does the same for you.

1.) Then I used to sweep and mop after every meal. Now Our black lab Bo faithfully cleans and mops after every meal.

2.) Then I used to stay in my pj’s as often as possible. Now I shower and dress every morning just to feel human.
3.) Then My bills were always payed a month ahead. Having a late bill would cause a panic attack and tears. Now I am impressed if they get payed at least once a month.I mean really who has time to sit down and concentrate on paperwork when there are three minions actively destroying my house?

4.) Then we ate out at least 1-3 times a week. Now It’s easier to just cook at home so the kids can throw food in the floor there instead of at a restaurant,  me feeling guilty and cleaning it up. Cleanup is much easier at home. (See #1 Now)

5.) Then A clean house meant I vacuumed, mopped, dusted, and had my house organized all at the same time. Now A clean house means there are still paths that are able to be navigated amongst the explosion of toys, clothes, dishes, the bathroom doesn’t smell too much like urine if you spray air freshener, there is at least enough clean dishes in the cabinet for the current meal and you can only make one sweater out of the accummulated dog hair on my floors.

6.) Then I could sing all the words to the number one hit songs. Now I can sing all the cartoon theme songs of all cartoon on our satellite channels. (Be jealous).

7.) Then A day at the spa meant going to an actual spa and getting hair, naiks, feet, and massage done. Now a spa day means a lukewarm bath sharing the tub with a menagerie of plastic tub toys and little fingers poking under the door.

8.) Then I drove a truck that seated 3. ( two if you didn’t want to bash somebody in the legs with the gearshift). Now I drive a suburban that comfortably seats 7 and my girls lovingly call it the almost van.

9.) Then I could unabashedly eat chocolate anywhere in my house. Now I hide like a fugitive (usually in the bathroom or pantry) while eating chocolate so I don’t have to share with one/all of the kids.

10.) Then I used the restroom in silence. Now I clap and jump up and down after I use the restroom so my girls think it’s cool to use the potty. (True story).

For all the Then vs. Now I wouldn’t change a thing. ♡

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Me and Boo

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Me and Owl